Question: I am concerned about talking to my therapist about a certain thing that happened to me. I need to talk about it. But I am afraid that when I do I probably won't cry. I might tear up. But I was taught not to cry. I am afraid she won't believe me or think I am lying or embellishing because I don't cry.
Advice from the Trenches: It is not unusual for those who have experienced childhood abuse to exhibit this lack of affect. The fact that you don't cry or can't cry when discussing terrible things that happened to you will demonstrate to a good therapist the degree to which these experiences have traumatized you. The one coping skill children have during trauma is to dissociate. The bigger the trauma the more the need to dissociate. Not crying is a symptom of that dissociation. A good therapist will not isolate one reaction to define the whole of who you are. They will take all the information she/he is receiving from you to create a whole picture about what you have coped with and how you did that. Their job then is to help walk you through that trauma in a manner that provides resolution.
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